Current mood and outlook:
Calm, happy, not anxious, not dreading the next meal. Just calm and relieved. Slowly building confidence in how amazing this approach is. Fear is here, talking some doubt shit. But this place is familiar, I’ve been here before, it felt like this last time it worked – so I decided to put it down in case I forget it.
Current Practice:
* Never diet. Don’t even give it the time of day in your mind.
* Eat breakfast, lunch and dinner. Know that you will feed yourself AT LEAST three times a day. Any amount of snacks are okay too, becuase I eat when I want food. The three meal structure can often be hard to meet, because it ends up being a lot of food some days; other days, it’s not enough. The anticipation of these meals stop hunger fueled binges; when I get hungry I look at my next closest meal and usually it’s at or around the time of one of those meals, so I check in with my body, ask her what she feels like, run through a list of options and wait for one to light her up.
* Mindful eating. When I’m eating I take a potion of the food, lower the fork or food and chew. Thinking about the texture and really enjoying the taste. This is no race. I slowly eat my meals, allowing for my body to communicate with my mind. There comes a point when I lose interest in the food or my body clearly says, STOP, IM DONE. At this point I know to pack up. If you’re like me and can find it hard to leave half your plate behind or throw it out (this happens at almost every meal, except snacks) think about these points:- thank the food, for nourishing you before disposing of it; the money spent on the food is ALREADY GONE, no point trying to get your value and overeating, food is there to provide nourishment, you have no obligation to eat every morsel. Eat until you are nourished and the food has done it’s job.
Get used to getting a doggy bag, more often than not I take half my food home. You don’t need to throw it out. It can be dinner or lunch the next day. Could be a side to dinner. Could be a snack later on. Doggy bags are life.
* Listen to your body. I cannot stress enough the importance of listening to your body. I come from a looooooong history of eating disorders and through this past I was lead to believe I couldn’t trust my body, that she was against me, she didn’t want to be healthy, she was making me eat all these horrible things and ruining my life. Now I know all my faculties were doing the best the knew how to support me emotionally, physically and otherwise. Unfortunately this distrust meant when I felt sick every day I overate it was a sort of revenge. I didn’t care that I felt sick until it hurt. Every time it hurt I knew what I was doing was killing me. Trusting my body was what set me free. She knows what she needs, she has no fear telling me. She is the only voice I can trust to know what is best for me. Her whole job is to keep my mind alive, healthy and in optimal condition. I had to stop trying to make choices for her and allow her to make the choices that suit her the best.
With all of the above in mind, my anxiety had gone. I don’t fear eating, meal times, food and make decisions. THE DECISION ISNT MINE ANYMOREEEEE. My body now makes the choices and relinquishing the responsibility back to where it belongs is such a relief. I don’t fear if I will binge, I don’t fear if I will make bad choices. The doubt lingers like an unwelcome party guest, but I have to have total faith in my body and her abilities. My mind has no idea what’s the best and thus far has made horrible decisions for my body. There is ZERO restrictions. No bad food. No diets. Everything is available. If my body says it’s keen, I am keen. She gets exactly how much she needs. We carry on. Food becomes a moot issue. Trust is implicit and each day we get stronger as an alliance.